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Jewish funeral customs, explained

By Calla Editorial · Updated May 2026

Jewish funeral traditions — prompt burial, taharah and the shomer, a plain casket, the graveside service, and the stages of mourning that follow, including shiva.

Jewish funeral customs center on simplicity, respect for the body, and a prompt return to the earth. Practices vary across Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform communities, but the core values are shared: burial soon after death, care of the body by the community, and a clear, supported path through mourning. A rabbi and, often, a Jewish funeral home or burial society guide the family.

Prompt burial

Burial traditionally happens as soon as possible, frequently within a day of death. Short delays are accepted when the Sabbath or a holiday intervenes, or when close relatives must travel. The speed reflects respect for the deceased and the wish not to prolong the period before the body is laid to rest.

Taharah and the shomer

Before burial, members of the chevra kadisha (the sacred burial society) perform taharah — a ritual washing and purification of the body — and dress it in a plain white shroud called tachrichim. From death until burial the body is not left alone; a shomer, or watcher, stays with it, often reciting psalms. Out of respect for the body, embalming and cremation are traditionally avoided.

The casket and the service

The casket is traditionally a simple, all-wood box with no metal parts, so it returns to the earth naturally and reflects the idea that all are equal in death. The funeral service is usually brief — psalms, a eulogy (hesped), and prayers, including the Mourner's Kaddish. At the graveside, mourners often take part in filling the grave themselves, a final act of care.

Mourning: shiva and beyond

  • Shiva — the first seven days after burial, when immediate family stay home and the community comes to comfort them.
  • Shloshim — the first thirty days, a gradual return to routine while still in mourning.
  • The first year — for a parent, mourning and the recitation of Kaddish continue for about a year.
  • Yahrzeit — the anniversary of the death, marked each year with a memorial candle and Kaddish.

Planning within the tradition

Because the timeline moves quickly, it helps to know the customs in advance and to contact a rabbi or a Jewish funeral home early. Many communities have a burial society that handles taharah and provides a plain casket and shrouds. If you are recording your wishes for the future, our guide to planning ahead and the planning checklist can help you note them where your family will find them.

A funeral home serving a Jewish family is still bound by the FTC Funeral Rule: you are entitled to an itemized price list and may decline anything you do not want. A simple, traditional burial typically costs less than an elaborate funeral, but you should still compare itemized prices.

Common questions

How soon after death is a Jewish burial held?
Traditionally as soon as possible, often within a day, unless the Sabbath, a major holiday, or the need for close family to travel requires a short delay. The body is not left alone before burial — a shomer (watcher) stays with it — and embalming and cremation are traditionally avoided so the body can return to the earth naturally and intact.
Why is the casket plain?
Jewish tradition favors a simple, all-wood casket with no metal, so the body and casket can return to the earth naturally, and to reflect the principle that everyone is equal in death. In Israel a casket is often not used at all. The emphasis is on simplicity and dignity rather than expense, which also keeps costs lower than an elaborate funeral.
What is shiva?
Shiva is the first and most intense stage of mourning — traditionally seven days, beginning right after burial — when immediate family stay home and receive visitors who come to comfort them. It is followed by lighter stages: shloshim (thirty days) and, for a parent, a year of mourning. The yahrzeit, the anniversary of the death, is marked each year afterward.

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